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"I think that the porn debate is important because of the disappearance of complexity and psychological depth in our current public discourse about sexuality. As I've argued before on AlterNet, we increasingly respond to the sexual scandals of politicians with black-or-white moral judgments that magnify intolerance, inhibit self-compassion for our own flaws, and inject personal psychology too much into public debate. We demonize rather than try to understand horrible tragedies like pedophilia while refusing to think about and face the epidemic of emotional neglect facing children in American families. We assume that looking at dirty pictures leads people to do dirty things, that learning about sex in high school makes teenagers want to have it, and that making abortion more available automatically makes girls open to teenage pregnancy. None of these are true, but terrible public policy has been made in their honor. We descend into this type of thinking in part because we don't want to understand how the mind really works, that it's complicated, that much of it is unconscious, that thoughts don't usually lead to action, and that fantasy -- pornographic or not -- isn't the same as reality."

Michael Bader, in "The Great Porn Misunderstanding"

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It seems to me like the same kind of mindset that we as kids encountered about various TV shows (I'm thinking of Power Rangers or The Simpsons as my personal-experience example.) About parents who wouldn't allow their children to watch such shows because they assumed that their children would go right out and hurt others or get hurt because, for example, Power Rangers was all about beating bad guys up...

So perhaps the two don't overlap completely, but there's this mindset that seems to connote that some people want to smother others for an assumed fear that people can't separate fantasy from reality; they want to avoid the thought that having a fantasy doesn't have to mean 'wanting to carry this out in real life'? I think I'm trying to show that kind of equation between BDSM vs. non-consensual experiences that having a passing similarity on the surface that I often see fierceawakening posting examples of. A similar thing is happening with porn (it's kind of sad that I naturally want to type it 'pron' 9_9) and people who think that because a person is watching it, they're going to want to reenact themes which may not be acceptable outside of fantasy.

i think that while bader makes a good point, this is something that's quickly changing

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