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Now I'm just ranting.
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Models are dying after subsisting on tomato-and-lettuce diets, but us Western women think we're fat unless we look like them.

I can't think of a better way to say "your diet is extreme" than dying from it. Why do I want so badly to look like that? It's inappropriate, and I know it, but I want.

Then there's the topic of Photoshop. There's a billboard I pass every day, with a before-and-after picture of this woman. The pictures are uncannily similar, which makes sense, because it isn't actually a before-and-after transformation at the spa. What happened is someone took a photograph of this woman in bad lighting looking all ugly, photoshopped in her makeup, colour-corrected her skin, digitally removed her blemishes, changed her hair colour using a paint tool, and now they're trying to pass it off as a good makeup-and-hair job at the spa.

There isn't a shred of reality in that picture. She's been so digitally altered she's more an illustration than a picture of a person, but they're trying to tell you that you can look like that... after you've forked over the money.

I hate it when beauty photographs have been digitally altered so as to look perfect, because then every woman who doesn't understand the concept of digitally altering photos will wake up, looking all ugly after a night in the sack, bed hair and bad lighting that is the bathroom, sigh at herself in the mirror, and tell herself she's ugly because she doesn't look like Kate Moss.

They prey on us. They prey on our insecurity. They tell us, like abusers tell their battered partners, that nobody will love us unless, that we're worthless because, that our feelings of emptiness and nagging anxiety are because we aren't pretty enough, thin enough, or talented enough.

The sick part is that we buy it.

I wonder how much of womens' obesity could be traced back to depression regarding body image? We're killing ourselves both ways, with our depression and our obsession. But how hard it is to let go of the idea that our "beauty", in some way, reflects our worth as a woman. We fail to see our real beauty. And it's tragic.

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One thing I could never understand is the whole women wanting to be a bone rack thing. Society seems to have ingrained in women from an early age that they need to loose weight. Ask any woman and she will say she needs to loose 5 to ten pounds, regardless of what she weighs.

looking all ugly after a night in the sack, bed hair and bad lighting that is the bathroom, sigh at herself in the mirror, and tell herself she's ugly because she doesn't look like Kate Moss Then you look back at your partner and realise that he is there for you, not Kate Moss.

When you feel insecure about your looks just remember that your partner loves you for you, and that you are the most beautiful woman in the world to him. That should be all the validation you need.

There's this Eve Ensler play which you oughta read called 'The Good Body'. It deals with a lot of these issues head on.

BTW, are you busy tomorrow (Thursday) during the day?

I'm busy until my CPR class is done. I think that's around noon.

I'm so relieved to see that someone out there feels the same way I do concerning the perfection we see in the media. Anyone with a brain cell and a half can see that no one, not even the girls in the pictures, look like the girls in the pictures, and yet all but two or three of the women I know aren't happy with themselves. Everyone else thinks they need to be taller, or thinner, or have blonde hair or any number of things like that, and it's sick.

I wonder how much of womens' obesity could be traced back to depression regarding body image? We're killing ourselves both ways, with our depression and our obsession. But how hard it is to let go of the idea that our "beauty", in some way, reflects our worth as a woman. We fail to see our real beauty. And it's tragic.

That part struck me the most of all. I know so many women that think like that, that our beauty reflects our worth, so many women that are depressed because they can't weight 110lbs and be "better people." I wish that there was some way I could help them see that there's more to who they are than how they look, but I've yet to find some words I can say to them that they'll take to heart so they can find happiness.

In any case, I second your rant. It is tragic, and it makes me hate what the world has come to.

On a less general bent, I think that if you could absorb the way that Brad and Kat and I and I'm sure Carlor and Anastasia see you, you would be so filled with happy-smug-"Oh yeah, I'm the fucking shit!"-ness that the beauty industry wouldn't be able to touch you.

It's frustrating how extremely efficient they are at undercutting women (and they've been working men over, too, but in different ways) and at making people feel like crap unless they fork over the cash.

>_>" I hope I don't wind up in that BSNS. It's pretty low.

I'm pretty sure you've seen this, and if not, it's really fascinating and quite apropos of this rant: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U

and in any case, I agree with you, the "beauty" industry is just sick, I talk to so many women who are depressed about how they look when they're beautiful people inside and out but have been brainwashed. It's sad.

Love the post! So well said! :) I also wonder how much the media and beauty industry affect women's abilities to ACCEPT well deserved compliments when they are given -- that is when the compliments themselves aren't belittling or objectifying -- which many beauty related compliments very well can be.

I... I think being in a girl's college (and hanging about mostly with athletes) probably makes this seem "different" to me...

Very few of the girls I know worry about their weight, or what have you. I think I'm the only girl in my class who routinely wears makeup. Yeah, you get the odd comments about "Yeah, rowing this term I think I've lost a kilo," but it's more a surprise thing.

The photo shop thing is interesting though. I just... the easiest way to "look better" is to smile, and walk into the room like you own it. No one needs photoshop for that. Seriously. And it works better than being the airbrushed girl who has no idea how to sit in her own skin.

I know that billboard. I have wanted to spraypaint PHOTOSHOP ≠ SPA or something like that on it.

Although it's the weight of these 'perfect girls' that I notice the most when looking through magazines and seeing commercials on television, I can't help but notice how 'perfect' everything else. Like you said, they appear more like illustrations.

Most these women (either naturally or because of things like photoshop retouching) have flawless and radiant skin, or are nicely tanned and waxed all over. Their nails - fingers and toes - are always nicely trimmed and shining. Their teeth are pearly white. You get the picture. And not that no one in real life looks like this, but the majority of woman I see have , you know, "flaws". I find that more annoying than the weight issue, actually, maybe because it's more subtle.

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